Why Love Sucks: Part 2 Team Love

(See Comic)“Love, friendship, respect, do not unite people as much as a common hatred for something.” Anton Chekhov Most of what passes for love in this world is best described as team love; team love is union that is discriminatory. Team love starts at the level of family. Parents tend to love their children because their children are their children. Children tend to love their parents because their parents are their parents. Grandparents tend to love their grandchildren because their grandchildren are their children's children. People tend to love their pets because their pets are their pets. See how that works? It is love by default and is often simply grown out of a habit of identification with the love object. and this kind of team love is preserved and fed through team unity built around common objectives. Before familial ties become preexisting, there comes team love born of making new families. This kind of team love is institutionalized in society by the ritual of marriage. And it is reinforced by biological reproduction. Since this kind of team love isn't preexisting, it depends on recruiting. Recruiting criteria varies widely from person to person, but overall the recruiting usually involves finding a person whose preexisting team is compatible with one's own preexisting team (or someone who is malleable enough to be indoctrinated into a new team, or whose team is desirable enough to justify abandoning one's own preexisting team). There is a general hierarchy of team love that becomes ever more specific. On the top level are all earth dwelling creatures. Then comes mammals. From mammals comes humans. There are different skin colored humans. There are different geographical regions that different human groups occupy. There are different languages. There are various religions. There are various political ideologies. There are various hobbies and interest. There are various culinary tastes. There are various musical tastes. There are various temperaments. And on and on and on… Most people tend to seek out people that reinforce their preexisting team. However, in certain circumstances, diversity is desired for any number of self- aggrandizing reasons. Team love is predicated on a certain level of competitive difference. In other words, the different love teams are all in competition with each other on some level. Without that competition, there would be no need for teams. On the most benign level, team love is a withholding of love from non-team members and manifests as indifference and relative apathy. However, on the most malignant level, team love is a hate toward non-team members. And this can be observed when team loyalty is violated by a (former) team member and becomes hated. Consequently, team love facilitates a kind of perpetual war where each side is driven by a blind inclination to preserve the sanctity of one's own team at the cost of another team. In normal, everyday life, this war is usually externally inconsequential. However, when conditions are prime, it can lead to all kinds of blatant violence and ruthlessness from the individual level to the collective level. Coming Next: Part 3 Sacrificial Victims