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Why Love Sucks: Part 3 Sacrifice

(See Comic) “If parents love their children, they will not be nationalistic, they will not identify themselves with any country; for the worship of the State brings on war, which kills or maims their sons.” Jiddu Krishnamurti An essential tenant of false love is the admiration of sacrifice. In reality, there is no love in sacrifice, for sacrifice entails an inequality and thus a debt. Common relationships are full of little rituals of sacrifice that are falsely called love. To demand sacrifice, or to comply with sacrifice, is to deny true love. On a national scale, this dynamic of sacrifice is a facilitator of war. Just because a person happened to be born in one dumb country instead of another dumb country that usually entails a certain amount of allegiance and affection (team love) for the country, which is called patriotism (which comes from the word pater, as in patriarch, meaning father). The pinnacle of patriotism is often touted as giving one’s life in military service fighting for one’s country. But such is the kind of idea that is only admirable if sacrifice is admirable. It is doubtful you’ll ever see a politician with the balls, or even brains, to say this, but realistically, participating in the military is obsequious warmongering, and supporting the military, without directly participating in it, is exploitive cowardice. In other words, most people, in the name of being good patriots, are either obsequious warmongers or exploitive cowards. The role of a military in a sane society is mere preparedness for a theoretical threat of direct aggression. In other words, it is merely defensive, not offensive. But in a society that admires sacrifice, there are people willing to sacrifice life and limb for the whims of exploitive cowards. The admiration of sacrifice and its association with love is reflected in religion. What is called Christianity today is a sacrificial religion--just like the religion it supposedly superseded: Judaism. There is a nonsensical dichotomy in conventional Christianity between what Jesus actually taught and the eventual mis-emphasis on his death. Whereas Judaism was a progression in the sense that it narrowed multiple gods down to one God. Christianity was a progression in the sense that it narrowed sacrifice down from many sacrifices (like animal sacrifices) to the ultimate sacrifice (the son of God). In a society that equates sacrifice with love, such a sacrificial religious view has plenty of appeal, but it has nothing to do with the revolutionary stuff Jesus attempted to teach--which was about forgiving the guilt that demands sacrifice to end guilt and sacrifice. Sacrifice plays hand in hand with guilt. And guilt is the most powerful tool for manipulating people’s behavior. People will do all sorts of things they wouldn’t do otherwise (like risk their lives) if they can be made to feel guilty and then offered freedom from the guilt. The payment to be free of guilt is sacrifice; it is like an attempt to pay down a debt. Prison is a kind of societal institutionalization of guilt demanding sacrifice. And capital punishment is the pinnacle of that institutionalization. A person who is sentenced to capital punishment usually murdered people. The reason that person murdered people was because, to that person, the murdered people were sacrificial victims of some kind used to help alleviate guilt--just as capital punishment is. However, it is all just an insane circle where the guilt is merely recycled. In other words, sacrifice recycles guilt but doesn’t eradicate it. Only true love (true forgiveness) can eradicate guilt. But as long as love entail sacrifice (including in bad religious ideas and patriotism), it is not true love and will devolve into hatefulness. End insanity don’t support sacrifice Coming Next: Part 4 Possessiveness

Why Love Sucks: Part 2 Team Love

(See Comic)“Love, friendship, respect, do not unite people as much as a common hatred for something.” Anton Chekhov Most of what passes for love in this world is best described as team love; team love is union that is discriminatory. Team love starts at the level of family. Parents tend to love their children because their children are their children. Children tend to love their parents because their parents are their parents. Grandparents tend to love their grandchildren because their grandchildren are their children's children. People tend to love their pets because their pets are their pets. See how that works? It is love by default and is often simply grown out of a habit of identification with the love object. and this kind of team love is preserved and fed through team unity built around common objectives. Before familial ties become preexisting, there comes team love born of making new families. This kind of team love is institutionalized in society by the ritual of marriage. And it is reinforced by biological reproduction. Since this kind of team love isn't preexisting, it depends on recruiting. Recruiting criteria varies widely from person to person, but overall the recruiting usually involves finding a person whose preexisting team is compatible with one's own preexisting team (or someone who is malleable enough to be indoctrinated into a new team, or whose team is desirable enough to justify abandoning one's own preexisting team). There is a general hierarchy of team love that becomes ever more specific. On the top level are all earth dwelling creatures. Then comes mammals. From mammals comes humans. There are different skin colored humans. There are different geographical regions that different human groups occupy. There are different languages. There are various religions. There are various political ideologies. There are various hobbies and interest. There are various culinary tastes. There are various musical tastes. There are various temperaments. And on and on and on… Most people tend to seek out people that reinforce their preexisting team. However, in certain circumstances, diversity is desired for any number of self- aggrandizing reasons. Team love is predicated on a certain level of competitive difference. In other words, the different love teams are all in competition with each other on some level. Without that competition, there would be no need for teams. On the most benign level, team love is a withholding of love from non-team members and manifests as indifference and relative apathy. However, on the most malignant level, team love is a hate toward non-team members. And this can be observed when team loyalty is violated by a (former) team member and becomes hated. Consequently, team love facilitates a kind of perpetual war where each side is driven by a blind inclination to preserve the sanctity of one's own team at the cost of another team. In normal, everyday life, this war is usually externally inconsequential. However, when conditions are prime, it can lead to all kinds of blatant violence and ruthlessness from the individual level to the collective level. Coming Next: Part 3 Sacrificial Victims