(See Comic) How much do you remember about yesterday, two days ago, a year ago, three years ago, ten years ago? Probably not too much. Even your memory of yesterday is probably dominated by gaps. In general, the times you remember were the times in which you were psychologically awake. The times you forget were the times in which you were psychologically asleep. So think about that. And then consider how often you are psychologically awake and how often are you psychologically asleep. Scary isnâ€™t it? The problem with living life psychologically asleep is that you leave yourself very vulnerable to what could be described as ego sabotage. Ego is built on the idea of separation from God (oneness) and maintained by guilt. Guilt demands punishment. If you are walking (or driving) around psychologically asleep then your ego can easily get you to do things subconsciously. And that means your ego can get you to punish yourself and others subconsciously, because playing out that belief is what keeps your ego alive in you. The punishment could be as simple as snubbing a person, or a fender bender, or spending an hour mindlessly thinking about depressing things, or stubbing your toe through careless walking. Or, it could be as extreme as murdering someone in a fit of rage, or driving your car off a cliff and taking a few people out with you. But regardless of the form, the content behind all such things is the same: a belief in guilt and thus a belief in punishment administered by your ego when you give it the opportunity. The cure for guilt and thus ego is forgiveness. But to be able to forgive you canâ€™t be psychologically asleep, otherwise youâ€™ll never remember to do it. It is just like awakening from a dream. It is a lot easier to awaken from a dream once youâ€™ve stopped identifying with it and stepped back from it and realized it is a dream. And it is the same with the ego and its dream. You have to stop identifying yourself as your ego, which is simply a dream figure. But to do that takes awareness. When you can step back and be aware, you are starting to identify with your true self instead of the ego. Because your true self is the thing you become when you are psychologically awake. Forgiveness is ultimately a disbelief in the illusion of separation (disbelief in dreams). And if you steadily forgive the unreality of your guilt, you wonâ€™t be as vulnerable to ego sabotage because you wonâ€™t be under as much ego mind control and harboring as much guilt. And when the ego does manage to strike, that is just an opportunity to use the ego against itself by forgiving the incident. So, today, right now, wake up. Become aware of your thoughts--instead of simply identifying with them. And start monitoring how often you are able to remember what you were just doing. If you can get awareness going, it builds on itself. That way you can step back from your ego more and more until it dissolves back into the nothingness from which it came. It takes time and vigilance though. Psychologically Asleep I am this thought. Iâ€™m a vulnerable body. Psychologically Awake Iâ€™m not this thought. Nor am I even this thought. True Self True Self versus Ego
(See Comic) If you want to free yourself from the tyranny of your ego, then there is one major thing you need to learn how to do and learn how to do right. That thing is forgive. But before you can forgive, you need to know what forgiveness means. The ego has its own idea of forgiveness, which is really fake forgiveness. Fake forgiveness is food for the ego, not its kryptonite. And so, to understand true forgiveness you must first be able to differentiate it from fake forgiveness. The two illustrations bellow will show you the difference in thinking behind fake versus true forgiveness. Fake Forgiveness: Fake Forgiver Fake Forgivee I forgive you. You were wrong, but since I'm such a nice gal I'll only punish you with guilt. What you did was real. What I did was real. She supposedly forgave me, but I still feel guilty. Belief in separation. True forgiver. True Forgivee. We are innocent. I dreamt you up so I could project my own guilt into you and stay lost in insane dreams. Enough of that. I really am innocent. She forgave herself by forgiving me. Now I see her innocence in turn. What she thought I did wasn't real. This is but a dream. The idea of separation isn't true. If you see others as guilty, you see yourself as guilty. It is as simple as that. And as long as you see yourself as guilty, you will simply project that guilt. And so, the ego will be your guide and you'll just stay stuck in the dream of separation from oneness called the universe. True forgiveness washes away guilt and awakens the dreamer. Which is another way of saying that it undoes the ego. But it takes a real shift in thinking to weaken the ego enough to really start chipping away at its control. The ability to truly forgive is the ultimate form of strength for a dreamer. but you need to build the discipline to practice it without compromise if you are to fully awaken. Deeply sleeping beginning to awaken Gaining Control of Your Own Mind.